the examined family

Courtney Martin
figuring out how to be and raise ethical, joyful humans in beautiful, horrible times
Created 07 Nov 2019
  • Sunday 5
    26 Dec 2021 • 1 min read • 6 1
    Hi ya. You hanging in? I’m here to tell you that whatever you said last night while under the influence of one too many eggnogs is okay. Forgive yourself. Forgive someone else. Being a person in a fam...
  • Top five most popular posts of the year
    22 Dec 2021 • 3 min read • 10 2
    I thought I’d throw the five most popular posts from the year back your way in case you missed them, or wanted to re-visit. And I’ll say this: I really can never predict what you’ll seize on. Which I ...
  • Sunday 5
    19 Dec 2021 • < 1 min read • 7 4
    I’m evolving this from NYT-centric snapshots to just five things that really did it for me this week… RIP bell hooks. There were so many beautiful tributes to her, but I really loved this segment that...
  • Fragments of a year
    15 Dec 2021 • 1 min read • 10 13
    My friend and writer (who you should definitely be following, subscribing to etc.) Amanda Machado was inspired by Ocean Vuong’s poem “Notebook Fragments,” to start composing end-of-year poems out of t...
  • 'Wisdom of my foremothers'
    10 Dec 2021 • 5 min read • 8 0
    In Jennifer Bailey’s beautiful new book, To My Beloveds: Letters on Faith, Race, Loss, and Radical Hope, she writes: “The hope of my foremothers is indeed rooted. Its tendrils reach deep into a histor...
  • The ghost of Christmas perfect
    08 Dec 2021 • 3 min read • 30 21
    Dear Other Mother, Welcome back. I can’t say I’m thrilled to see you here, but I’m not surprised. It’s holiday time, your favorite moment of all to saunter through the door and point out all the thing...
  • Sunday Recs
    05 Dec 2021 • < 1 min read • 4 2
    Hey crew, I’m feeling disenchanted with the Times, as I think I’ve shared, so rather than sending along five articles from the “paper of record,” I’m sending along five general endorsements… Harriet t...
  • 'Unwinding history'
    01 Dec 2021 • 4 min read • 16 14
    I’ve been working on an audio story about my long dead grandmother for the past few weeks, which means I’ve carried her around with me more than usual. We sit at stop lights together and I feel a sadn...
  • 10 questions for the socially anxious turkey table
    24 Nov 2021 • 1 min read • 6 3
    Everyone I talk to, I mean really talk to, is admitting that they are feeling some kind of way in this liminal pandemic moment. We’re opening back up. We’re not opening back up. We want to open back u...
  • Dear Teacher
    17 Nov 2021 • 1 min read • 21 7
    It’s Teacher Appreciation Week at our school (which maybe should just be every week?!). Feel free to crib this and send it to a teacher you are grateful for. Dear Teacher, Thank you for your magical a...
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