Mending Fractured Relationships

Karen Tibbals
How you can mend relationships that have been severed by politics
Created 13 Aug 2020
  • But I didn’t mean it that way!
    06 Nov 2021 • 1 min read • 1 1
    I think many of us have had the experience of someone taking what we said the wrong way. Or was it the wrong way? Maybe we actually did mean it on some level. I want to explore this complicated, messy...
  • What team are you on?
    30 Oct 2021 • 2 min read • 1 1
    Because our society is so polarized, many of us have chosen a side. (That’s a tautology.) It’s hard not to choose. The media you watch, the people you hang out with, all of that contributes to which s...
  • Conflict entrepreneurs
    23 Oct 2021 • 1 min read • 1 0
    In her book, “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out,” journalist and author Amanda Ripley gives a name to people who fuel conflict: conflict entrepreneurs. She asks us to recognize thos...
  • Persuade, Don't Preach: Restoring Civility Across the Political Divide
    21 Oct 2021 • < 1 min read • 1 3
    If you want to hear me talk about the concepts in my book, tune in on Saturday at 5pm EST/2pm PST for a virtual presentation I am giving to Civility First in Whidby Island WA. No charge, but you must ...
  • A reader asks for help
    16 Oct 2021 • 3 min read • 1 1
    Dear Karen, I’ve read your book and have been reading this newsletter. I decided to use your ideas in a conversation the other day for the first time. It didn’t go well. Is it possible that there are ...
  • Are you an expert?
    09 Oct 2021 • 6 min read • 2 1
    Today’s world is so complicated that we can’t be an expert in everything. We “know” about cars and plumbing and zippers, but we aren’t true experts in them. But because we know how to operate them, we...
  • Is it safe to have this conversation?
    02 Oct 2021 • 3 min read • 1 1
    When I first thought about this topic, I was considering the elements that go into safety, which I will get to in a minute. But, then I also remembered what Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff say in th...
  • Do you like change?
    25 Sep 2021 • 3 min read • 1 0
    The degree of comfort with change is one of the core differences between people. It is one of the big five descriptors of personality. How do you feel about change? How about the people you find diffi...
  • QTIP: Quit Taking It Personally
    18 Sep 2021 • 1 min read • 2 3
    One reason our conversations with people who disagree with us are so contentious is that we take their comments personally. If they don’t agree with us, we think they’re rejecting us! Not just that th...
  • Dear Karen,
    11 Sep 2021 • 3 min read • 2 1
    Dear Karen, I am writing to you because I think of you as the 21st equivalent of Dear Abby for relationships that are impacted by politics. I have a problem that I hope you can help with. My husband a...
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