My mother, my grief: a daughter’s reflections on loss

Frances A. Chiu
Reflections on loss and relationship with parents
Created 09 Aug 2021
  • So long, farewell:
    26 Sep 2021 • 10 min read • 1 2
    It wasn't something I expected that overcast morning. I harbored some hopes that with Dad feeling better and accompanying me to see her, she might notice and feel better herself. That’s why I woke him...
  • The Eye of the Storm, Part 2
    17 Sep 2021 • 8 min read • 1 0
    At this point, on a Tuesday morning, hope was clearly running out. I wondered to myself how much longer Mom would have. In fact, later that afternoon, there were plans to move her to the cancer ward a...
  • The Eye of the Storm
    10 Sep 2021 • 10 min read • 2 0
    Just as we didn’t predict that Sunday, September 21st, would be Mom’s last day at home, we didn’t realize that her days were numbered. Even nearly seven years later, on Friday, September 10th, 2021, i...
  • Running on Empty
    03 Sep 2021 • 9 min read • 1 0
    The first few nights home from the hospital that last week of June could not have been any better. Everything went smoothly—including the Lovenox shot that I had to give Mom on a nightly basis. Things...
  • Kingdom Cancer:
    27 Aug 2021 • 8 min read • 1 0
    Much like April 24, 2014, June 17, 2014 stands out in my mind—and arguably far more. For much like that earlier day, June 17th seemed to open on an optimistic note. Mom and I were still in a great moo...
  • A Stroke of Fate
    19 Aug 2021 • 10 min read • 2 2
    I can still remember that day—April 24, 2014. No, not the day she died—but the day that would foretell her impending death, another five and a half months away or so. But none of us knew it just then....
  • Prologue:
    09 Aug 2021 • 5 min read • 2 4
    “Where’s Mom? Will I see her again?” Growing up, there seemed to be nothing more frightening than the prospect of losing my parents—but especially my mother. The first inkling came when I was three, s...
  • Reflections on loss and relationship with parents
    09 Aug 2021 • < 1 min read • 1 0
    Welcome to My mother, my grief: a middle-aged daughter’s reflections by me, Frances A. Chiu. Cultural and literary historian. Author of Paine’s Rights of Man. Horror aficionado and scholar. Middle-age...
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