Self-Actual Engineering

Thomas P Seager, PhD
Engineering for the top of Maslow's Hierarchy.
Created 08 Sep 2021
  • What to do when you break a commitment
    07 Nov 2021 • 2 min read • 1 0
    Once upon a time, I broke a promise. I had my good reasons, and I was choosing to break it. That is, I knew I was breaking my promise… even though the person to whom I had made this promise was very a...
  • Critical sources of conflict in love
    25 Oct 2021 • 8 min read • 1 0
    Somewhere in the middle of Maslow’s hierarchy of human motivations, we find the need for trusting, intimate relationship with other people. As much as we mythologize independence, as human beings, we ...
  • Nobody cares about your passion.
    20 Oct 2021 • 1 min read • 1 0
    There is a Japanese word called “Ikigai” that is often explained as path to a long, happy, meaningful life. The concept moves beyond the usual, western Baby Boomer advice to “follow your passion,” and...
  • What I did for my wife's anxiety
    17 Oct 2021 • 8 min read • 2 0
    Photo by Christopher Campbell on Unsplash There came a point in the slow erosion of my first (and so far, only) marriage when I realized that so much of what I was unsatisfied with was my fault. I did...
  • What is an 'Alpha Male'?
    16 Oct 2021 • 4 min read • 1 0
    The ‘alpha wolf’ is the dominant male, who controls the sexual reproductive rights of every other wolf in the pack According Red Pill praxelogy expert Rollo Tomassi, there is no term in the lexicon of...
  • Gifted Children Learn to Deny Their Emotions To Please Their Parents
    14 Oct 2021 • 9 min read • 1 0
    Photo by Raychan on Unsplash Love equals survival We are all born into this world dependent upon our Mother’s love. Not just for for the sustenance of breastmilk, but for the emotional connection and ...
  • Feelings are different from wantings
    07 Oct 2021 • 1 min read • 1 0
    Many of us find that we aren’t getting what we want from life, but fail to recognize that this is because we’re getting only what we feel. There is a difference between wanting and feeling. We know th...
  • Relationship chemistry, explained.
    05 Oct 2021 • 5 min read • 1 0
    According to Harville Hendrix in Getting the Love You Want (1988), we unconsciously seek out romantic partners that remind us of the people who wounded us in childhood, because we believe only they ca...
  • Self Actual Engineering
    08 Sep 2021 • 5 min read • 1 0
    I’ve been organizing more of my writing around a new a concept that I call Self Actual Engineering. The term is a reference to the famous American psychologist Abraham Maslow, who described a theory o...
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