Black Sheep Purpose

Sidda Lee
Surviving trauma and thriving as the familial black sheep.
Created 14 Nov 2020
  • Signs You Experienced Emotional Incest
    29 Sep 2021 • 4 min read
    Hello Fellow Black Sheep Today I wanted to touch on an issue that we’ve grazed past before. I’ve written about toxic enmeshment, how toxic families don’t have boundaries, and triangulation. But there’...
  • Common Phrases of Gaslighting
    19 Sep 2021 • 3 min read
    In my healing journey, I learned that much of what I believed about my childhood was false. Memories, events, and emotions I was harboring toward other people were fabricated by my narcissistic parent...
  • Struggling with Siblings
    07 Sep 2021 • 3 min read
    Growing up, I lived with my mom, stepdad, 2 half-siblings, and 2 younger foster siblings. As the oldest, it was my job to run the household the majority of the time. Often meaning most things didn’t g...
  • Second-Hand Shame
    27 Aug 2021 • 2 min read
    My mother embarrassed me so many times in my life. As a child, I can remember being very young and ashamed of her dramatic outbursts. This only became worse as I aged. Second-hand shame is still a bat...
  • What is Your Purpose
    04 Aug 2021 • 1 min read
    A quick update I took the month of July off. In part to complete a cross-country move and in part as a creative reset. I visited my family for the first time in 2 years (more on that in later pieces)....
  • Triangulation & Toxic Families
    26 Jun 2021 • 2 min read
    To recap my post from earlier this week, my Mom and I were “friends”. I was a great friend to her. Always available, always building her up, always being her sounding board. She dumped her issues with...
  • Oversharing: Toxic Parent Edition
    23 Jun 2021 • 2 min read
    Before embarking on any kind of healing- Before stepping foot in a therapist’s office- I thought my mother and I were friends. I was a great friend. Always available, always responding to texts and ca...
  • Types of Toxic Parents: The Narcissist
    14 Jun 2021 • 4 min read
    I hate writing about narcissism. So many get their feathers ruffled by the mere mention of narcissist. The internet has given rise to armchair experts in this topic. But, it’s an important area to exp...
  • Toxic Families Emotion Shame
    31 May 2021 • 3 min read
    I used to drink a lot. It wasn’t what people think of when they think of alcoholism though. Or, it wasn’t what I thought of I guess I should say. Somewhere along the way, I learned that alcohol was th...
  • Toxic Families are Highly Critical
    25 May 2021 • 3 min read
    This morning I had a conversation with a family member. From the start, the chat centered around her kids. “He’s dangerously heavy. You wouldn’t believe how bad he looks because he’s so fat now.” “She...
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